I thought of committing suicide during my battle with depression, reveals John Mooney

"I know with the support and the people around me, I am going to come out on the right side of it"

“I know with the support and the people around me, I am going to come out on the right side of it”

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Ireland all-rounder John Mooney has revealed that he considered committing suicide during his two-year battle against depression.

In an emotional interview with Ireland’s RTE Sport, Mooney opened up about his struggles and how things started to become really bad during the national team’s tour of the West Indies in January-February this year.

However, while Mooney made his international comeback against Scotland earlier this week, he admitted that he would remain in a constant battle to stay upbeat about life.

“For the last number of years, I had started to withdraw from everyday life,” he said. “The drinking excessively as well is never good and you’re masking your feelings. A lot of men don’t talk about their feelings and I am certainly one of those people. I’ve spent 20 years bottling up all my feelings. It was a really tough process to get to where I got to today. It wasn’t an overnight thing, it was a gradual build-up and when I was in the Caribbean, things had slipped personally for me and there was just no way I could go on with that tour.”

At his lowest point, Mooney considered taking his own life and even told his wife about his plans. However, instead of committing suicide, he decided to seek help and get his life back on track.

“Yesterday was Suicide Prevention Day and I have had suicidal thoughts,” he said. “I’ve had to tell my wife about it. She was devastated. That was the first time I had to go into St Pat’s [St Patrick’s Mental Hospital]. Just a simple little thing. It would have been an easy decision to have gone through with the plan that I had, but to just say it to her, to go through the services that I have gone through and the help that I have gone through was without doubt the best decision I have ever made. The thoughts come like you’re having a craving for anything, they just pop into your head. It’s a really weird feeling and it is very difficult to explain. I hope nobody ever has to experience them.”

Mooney, who has represented Ireland in 50 ODIs and 23 Twenty20 Internationals, revealed that he needed to return home from the West Indies when he didn’t want to attend a training session. He added that he spoke about his troubles with head coach Phil Simmons and close friend Niall O’Brien.

“I’d been in bed for a couple of days,” he said. “We had played a game on a Friday night. I had a couple of too many drinks. We had a training session the next day and I just couldn’t do the training session. I wasn’t in the frame of mind to get up out of bed.

“It was a really, really bad place. I’ve had days and weeks like that in the past just luckily enough I wasn’t on tour. Straightaway I knew. Simmo was around in my room and Niall O’Brien, who I’ve played with since the Under-13 level and my closest friend in the team, and they were both in the room with me and they were talking to me and I had the sheets pulled up over my head, I couldn’t even look at them. It was a unanimous decision from everybody that I needed to come home.”

Mooney attributed his battle with depression to the fact that his father passed away in front of him when he was just 11, and to excessive drinking as well.

“About two years ago, I had to go and do some counselling,” he said. “My father dropped dead in front of me as a 11-year-old and I never really dealt with those issues coming into my teenage years, I got into a bit of trouble. I made a promise to him that I was going to play cricket for Ireland and that was the real driving force for me to even stay in the game.

“A couple of years ago, I found myself falling out of love with the game, not finding much love in anything really and I decided to go to counselling. And that started to stir up an awful lot of emotional feelings and stuff like that. Cricket Ireland have been superb. I told them straightaway about it and they still managed to keep me going until it just came to a head last year in the Caribbean.”

Mooney also conceded that he didn’t want to talk to his team-mates about his condition since he did not want to use it as an excuse.

“I never felt I needed to have a mask but I felt that I didn’t ever want it to be an excuse,” he said. “I didn’t want to go and say if my form dropped or anything like that, I have this safety blanket of ‘Oh, you know I am suffering with depression’. I didn’t want that.

“I had this persona in the change room and amongst the rest of the lads that, I’d be one of the heaviest lifters in the gym and this kind of stuff and youngsters might be a bit intimidated by me when I played and I wanted to keep up that kind of persona. In reality, I am just the same as everybody else. With feelings that I had bottled up that I really needed to get rid off.”

The 32-year-old thanked Cricket Ireland, Simmons, O’Brien and chief executive Warren Deutrom for all their support during his darkest days.

“Phil Simmons knew and Warren Deutrom knew and I would pay a special thank you to them because they really helped me,” he said. “Another guy, Phil Moore from the Irish Institute of Sport have been fantastic. They knew from the first day that I had to go to counselling and they have been an unbelievable support to me. It’s the first time for anyone to be dealing with it from Cricket Ireland so mistakes were made along the way but it wasn’t because of a lack of trying or anything.”

While Mooney knows that his road to recovery is going to be a long one, he is hoping that he will win his battle against depression one day.

“This is going to be an ongoing fight. This is a battle I am going to be dealing with for a while,” he said. “I don’t think you can ever take your eye off the ball and get away with something like this. It is a recovery programme and it is ongoing. I am on the right side of it at the moment and am hopefully going to stay there as long as I possibly can. I know with the support and the people around me, I am going to come out on the right side of it.”

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